Do you admire those who are able to bounce back no matter how many curved balls life throws at them? Aspiring to be like that friend who seems to know what they want and have their whole life mapped out? You need to have self-confidence! Knowing who you are and trusting your judgment, capabilities and abilities no matter the situation is what self-confidence is. It keeps you resilient and makes it easier for you to form relationships and gain the trust of others. Unlike the popular belief, self-confidence is actually a skill that can be learnt and developed! Build your self-confidence and inspire confidence in others with these tips!
Stay Away From Negative Peers
I’m sure we all have that one or two party poopers in our lives who try to bring us down or downplay our achievements. You might think that it’s okay to tolerate it, but don’t underestimate the power of peer influence! Your thoughts and actions are influenced by the people you constantly interact with, so surround yourself with positive people who encourage you. Ask yourself – Do your friends uplift you or bring you down? If the answer is the latter, it’s time to re-evaluate your inner circle.
Be Kind To Yourself
It’s easy to stay away from negative external influences, but what happens if the negative influence comes from the voices inside your head? Low self-confidence is usually caused by the inner critic in us harping over every little thing that we did wrong and second guessing our opinions. So get rid of that negative self-talk! Before you shelve an idea because it’s ‘dumb’ or ‘lame’, try voicing it out! If you are suffering from a setback, know that it’s perfectly fine to make mistakes as long as you learn from the experience. Take a deep breath and pick yourself again.
Face Your Fears
The best way to gain confidence is to face your fears. If you have the fear of public speaking, volunteer to do presentations for your work. If you have the fear of failure, spearhead a project and own it! The more you try, the more likely you will gain confidence from doing it. Maybe it wasn’t as bad as you thought. Who knows, you might actually have a talent for it! You don’t have to face your fears all at once. Start small by identifying one fear and work on it first. There’s nothing more satisfying than knowing that you have accomplished your fears.
Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
Have you ever felt like an under-achiever after seeing someone’s Facebook or LinkedIn post? It’s okay to feel inferior or envious, but remember this, no one likes to share about their hardships and struggles! We only want to share the best parts of ourselves on social media. Rather than comparing someone else’s success to your success journey, focus on your strengths and keep working towards your goals. Your time to shine will come as long as you believe in yourself and your capabilities.
Track Your Progress
Celebrate your successes no matter how big or small! It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the issues you are currently facing, but don’t forget to look back to see how far you have come. On days when the going gets tough, pull out a list of your favourite achievements and remind yourself that you are an amazing person who has accomplished many things!
Life is full of challenges that knock us off our feet and make us second guess ourselves. Stay resolute and believe in your abilities (you are better than what you think!). Focus on what you are good at and keep working to become a better and more confident version of yourself!