Did you know that children with higher emotional intelligence (also known as EQ) tend to do better academically? Studies have found that students with better grades and higher test scores also have higher emotional intelligence. What’s amazing is that this finding was consistent across students globally, regardless of their education level! No doubt, being intelligent and conscientious is important for academic success. However, emotional intelligence lays the foundation for your child to acquire soft skills which are necessary to excel in the classroom and beyond.
What Is Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional intelligence includes awareness, understanding, and the ability to express and regulate one’s emotions. Since these skills are so important, why is it not taught in class? Unlike the usual academic subjects, emotional intelligence is best acquired through social interactions and hands-on experience. Character Development classes taught in school are only the beginning!
Does your child get the exam jitters? Are they finding it difficult to cope with their school work? Stress management is crucial in today’s fast paced education system. Your child is expected to keep up with their peers or risk falling behind. Children who are more attuned to their emotions do well in school as they are able to identify the stressors. Rather than being overwhelmed by anxiety or disappointment, they seek help or regulate their emotions. This allows them to focus on the positive feelings and keep them from the negative thoughts.
Never underestimate the importance of forming good relationships in school. Having a good support system can keep your child on track with school and even develop their passion for learning! But before all these can happen, your child needs to know how to socialize. Remember all the times when you had your own circle of friends and study groups? This did not happen by chance! It happened because you were able to empathize with your peers, identify their emotions and effectively resolve conflicts.
Take Charge Of Learning
Sick and tired of forcing your child to study? Tried all carrot and stick methods and yet it doesn’t seem to be working? Try honing their emotional intelligence instead! Being able to resist the urge to play computer games or using their phones is part of self-regulating emotions. With more time to focus on their work and pay attention in class, it is no wonder that they are doing better. What’s more, knowing what keeps them happy and motivated will help them understand their intrinsic motivation. Say hello to self-motivation and goodbye to all the worry and frustration!
With more schools emphasizing on the ability to communicate your thoughts, emotions and feelings, emotional intelligence is a must. Instead of throwing tantrums when things don’t go their way, your child should communicate their needs and regulate their emotions. It will help them get the right kind of support that they need. It’s also no surprise that students who do better in history and literature also have higher emotional intelligence. After all, understanding the social context and formulating thoughts are the core of humanities.
Set your child apart from the rest by improving their emotional intelligence. Apart from the character development classes in school, parents also have to play a part. Listen and validate the feelings of your child. Once you have lent a listening ear, don’t forget to label their feelings. Happy, sad or angry? Expand their awareness of feelings to include emotions like disappointment, excitement or jealousy. The more you and your child talk about emotions and feelings, the more likely they would develop emotional intelligence.