Do you have a friend that always gets into trouble? Know someone who always plays truant? I’m not proud to say this, but it reminds me of the days when I was a student. Back then, I didn’t understand why adults would always nag at me to do better. I wanted to do things MY way. Now as an adult, I always wondered if things would have turned out differently if I had heeded their advice. Always remember, your path in life is never fixed and every decision you make can and will change your life. My first life-changing moment happened when I met with a near-death experience at 16. That’s when I started thinking about my future and life more seriously. Find out how you can excel as a student with these tips.
Keep an Open Mind
Be open to feedback, be it from your parents or your teachers. Don’t shut them off completely even though they can be naggy. Chances are, they probably understand and have experienced what you are going through. Parents and teachers often nag or tell you to do things because they know that this is for your own good. (does this phrase sound familiar?) As much as their actions can be frustrating to you as a student, cherish them and take their advice seriously. It’s okay to disagree with their views! However, do take some time to reflect on their advice and try to incorporate parts of it into your daily life.
Free Yourself From Distractions
“Study first, BGR (boy-girl relationship) later!” How many times have we heard this from our parents? But it feels good to be in love and have someone you can confide in. Not all relationships last when we are students. Trust me, it took me a while to accept this fact and understand things from my parents’ perspective. Keep BGR to the minimum, the last thing you want is to be upset or distracted for your upcoming exams. Grades might not be everything, but having good grades can open up more pathways for your future. If you are already in a relationship, keep it healthy and remember to prioritize your studies! Suggest to go on study dates and motivate each other to strive harder.
Don’t Give In To Peer Pressure
When I was younger, I always felt the need to “fit in” and be part of a cool clique. I bought the latest gadgets and took part in crazy and sometimes even life-threatening activities just to look cool in front of my friends. Looking back, I realised that succumbing to peer pressure has negatively impacted me and my behaviour. Is conforming to the societal norms always the right choice? Even as a student, you have the power to determine what is right and wrong. It’s difficult not to give in to peer pressure because we all want to fit in and belong to a group, but always remember to set boundaries for yourself. Surround yourself with positive people and be aware of the repercussions of your actions.
Strengthen Your Relationship With Your Parents
Not all of us are blessed with a good relationship with our parents. I used to fight and argue with my parents as we often had misunderstandings and disagreements. Never underestimate the value of a good home environment. A supportive family can help you realise your full potential and negate the stress you are feeling as a student. Also, parents are irreplaceable and they give the best advice. For a start, dedicate at least two to three days in a week to share your daily life with them or talk about your goals. Let them know what you want (and no, I don’t mean the expensive stuff). Parents have your interests at heart and they will do the best they can to help you achieve your goals.
Know Your Strengths And Weaknesses
It is never too early for you to identify your strengths and weaknesses. Knowing what you are good at can help you navigate the direction of your life and enable you to utilize your time effectively. This goes beyond just academics to life in general. Apart from being aware of which topics you are good at, learning about your individual qualities can help you to succeed in life. Start with weekly reflections on your life and think about how you can embrace your strengths while working on your weaknesses. It would be challenging in the beginning, but trust me, it only gets easier. If you are unsure, take part in competitions or try out different CCAs to determine where your strengths and weaknesses lie. If you are already aware of your strengths, good for you! Participate in more competitions or CCAs that will bring out the best in you.
Balance Your Can-Do Attitude With Must-Do Attitude
Fall down seven times, get up eight. This quote is something that I believe in as it contains the essence of both the can-do and must-do spirit. A can-do attitude enables you to approach situations positively, whereas a must-do attitude keeps you determined. Combine both of them and you would be able to excel as a student! It’s perfectly normal to fail or make mistakes, at least it shows that you tried. I used to be afraid of trying for fear that I would fail or make mistakes. Eventually, I realised that failures and mistakes are alright as long as we learn from it and keep working on improving ourselves. Making mistakes is also one of the ways for us to be aware of our weaknesses. It might be tough to adopt a positive and determined attitude towards studying since it can be so boring at times. Form small study groups with classmates of different abilities so that you can motivate each other and better tackle challenges.